When someone says here’s what I really mean, what I’m aiming at — it must be difficult to see only reactions that pick up on some detail and blow it up into a contradiction of what you’ve said was the overall spirit and intention. If that happens enough though it’s worth asking why people can’t hear you.
I wonder if “tragedy of the commons,” “free riders,” and even the language of contribution, of giving back has been too toxified to use anymore, even with the best of intentions.
“I know what you mean, but I also see how others can’t hear it when you use words that are triggers for them.” That’s how I often feel or find myself explaining things to people caught in a WordPress drama crossfire, myself included.
It does help if you understand others’ intentions, and if you have not listened to Josepha Haden Chomphosy trying to make Five for the Future‘s intentions clear, you should.